What-About-ism and The Many Tactics Used to Silence Women • The Muslim Women TImes


Countering girls’s complaints about their destructive encounters with males, by sneering that ladies are simply as able to mistaken just isn’t the service it’s made out to be.

– Fadilah Ali

“Women are incapable of doing wrong,” stated no girl ever.

The effectiveness of patriarchal extravaganza, in creating and upholding narratives surrounding girls and ladies’s points is severely ignored. A standard instance is the usage of “feminist” as a slur towards outspoken girls. And in circumstances the place male misconduct is being mentioned, the fantastic stroke of inspiration that fulfils the necessity to silence girls on these urgent issues is out of the blue delivered to the limelight: the truth that ladies are literally able to evil.

But, right here’s the factor. It just isn’t some mighty riposte that may successfully silence girls. This is for the fundamental incontrovertible fact that no girl has ever upheld this fickle, simplistic, infantilising mantra. Women are simply as human, and it shouldn’t be controversial to state that we’re very able to wrongdoing, identical to our male counterparts. And in accordance with our elementary variations, the variations in female and male wrongdoing varies, in a number of capacities and frequencies.

Society upholds these narratives; these concepts of what a girl ought to do, what a girl ought to be, with out contemplating the precise human nature of ladies. Absolving girls of all mistaken, and on the identical time unleashing the equal propensity for wrongdoing as a weapon within the face of criticism is akin to the follow of citing situations of males being sexually assaulted (victims upon whom nobody had bestowed an inkling of thought prior) to silence girls’s grievances. On the floor, the concept girls are the faultless gender appears admittedly uplifting. I imply, who wouldn’t wish to be thought to be flawless and proof against mistaken? Who wouldn’t wish to be commemorated and appeared as much as because the embodiment of all that’s good and pure? This can be splendid if girls had been truly created this fashion.

However, the place of being held to the very best ethical and social requirements additionally comes with a singular pitfall: girls are afforded little to no grace within the catastrophic occasion that they make errors. Global tradition has developed round providing tens of millions of excuses for males’s actions or simply one way or the other blaming girls for it. Since it’s to be anticipated of a person to at all times be within the mistaken, he’s satirically met with grace and charitable interpretations rationalizing his actions. Conversely, girls dare not step a toe out of line. Society criticizes girls for every little thing, from their successes to their clothes, to their falterings. A match of collective righteous anger crops up when a girl, is vocal, assured and unapologetic. Seeing as such attributes are reserved for males, it’s no marvel that after we lash out at girls, we don’t maintain again. We criticize and nag and vilify.

Why not? After all, it’s moderately handy for any society to disregard the precise realities of ladies, our peculiarities and connexions, and proceed to mould a picture of what it requires girls to be. It enforces and upholds that picture as the usual, the guiding star to which all girls should amend themselves. As the faultless gender, girls ought to act demurely, even when confronted with the harshest of inconveniences. Women ought to at all times prioritize trying fairly and their general appearances over actually every little thing else. Women ought to graciously tolerate every little thing that life throws at them, as befits a flawless being incapable of wrongdoing. Women shouldn’t even have physique hair. 

Making girls out to be the faultless gender strips them of their most necessary high quality; being human. It locations on them the necessity to carry out superficial goodness, it holds them to an not possible normal of conduct, the place perfection in its absolute just isn’t solely regular however to be anticipated. It is counter-productive for a society to be engineered this fashion, for the boys to be anticipated to do mistaken, and for the ladies to be anticipated to tolerate these wrongs with a sleek smile.

Countering girls’s complaints about their destructive encounters with males, by sneering that ladies are simply as able to mistaken just isn’t the service it’s made out to be. It just isn’t solely absurd to counsel in any other case, ultimately, nobody has a monopoly on evil.

Fadilah Ali is the Features Editor for The Muslim Women Times. She has a B.Sc in Microbiology and she or he is keen about studying, writing, girls’s rights, and tafsir.


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