Laylatul Qadr For The Busy Caregiver


Allah says within the Qur’an,

 “The Night of Decree is better than a thousand months,” [Surah Qadr:3]

The Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) can also be reported to have mentioned, “Whoever prays on Laylatul Qadr out of faith and sincerity, shall have all their past sins forgiven,” [Bukhari and Muslim]

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Laylatul Qadr. An evening higher than a thousand months. This night time is a present for all of creation, particularly busy moms and caregivers. The Ramadan of a fasting mom could be very totally different to a Ramadan earlier than kids. Even on this blessed month, extra usually that not, it’s seemingly that the majority of childcare, eldercare, and family duties continues to be on the shoulders of ladies.

There is super reward for husbands and fathers who comply with within the footsteps of the Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) by serving to to share these obligations with their womenfolk.

Even with help –not to mention with out it- it’s nonetheless so tiring for fasting moms and caregivers to carry out our acts of worship. In moments of overwhelm, it’s comprehensible to really feel like we’re lacking out on going to the masjid for uninterrupted tarawih, or studying Qur’an for blissfully quiet hours.

The Antidote to FOMO

The very definition of motherhood and caregiving is getting our wants interrupted as a result of we’re caring for another person’s. Because of this, Laylatul Qadr is an ideal antidote to the FOMO (worry of lacking out)/grief that so many busy fasting moms and caregivers really feel.

muslim mom assist her younger daughter to place the headband on earlier than pray

Busy mom, I see you. You are the one juggling kids’s college decide up and drop off, lunch containers. and playdates. Mama, you’re the one tending to heartbreaks, large and small. Ummi, you’re the one left exhausted by a day of fasting and continuous servitude to each your Creator and the little ones you birthed.

If the blessing of youngsters isn’t sufficient to maintain you busy, then eldercare will. You are additionally the one serving to to drive your aged in-laws, and fogeys, and different family, to physician’s appointments. These are the day by day acts of service that you simply don’t get medals for – please belief that none of that is misplaced on Allah .

Sometimes, you would possibly look again longingly to your earlier Ramadans; ones the place you weren’t chargeable for such little kids or ailing elders. These have been the carefree Ramadans of your youth, earlier than you knew the which means of continuous day by day self-sacrifice.

Please consolation your self with the data Allah is All-Knowing and Most Merciful. He is aware of your day by day battle greater than anybody else. Your Creator is aware of the deepest longings of your coronary heart. He has designed Laylatul Qadr with you in thoughts.

In the depths of one of many odd nights within the final ten days of Ramadan, even the busiest and most exhausted of caregivers has a lifeline to the key of Layltul Qadr. Even in case you can’t do as a lot ibaadah throughout the daylight, you continue to have the chance to nonetheless earn the reward of a lifetime of worship within the evenings.  All it is advisable to do is present up, make dua’, and ask Allah for forgiveness.

A Blessed Gift to Caregivers

The precise date of Laylatul Qadr is unknown. It is believed to happen on an odd night time within the final ten days of Ramadan (e.g. the twenty first, twenty third, twenty fifth, 27 or twenty ninth night time). The Prophet Muhammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) mentioned, “Seek it in the last ten days, on the odd nights.” [Bukhari and Muslim]

Even if we don’t know the precise date of Laylatul Qadr, there may be Divine knowledge in that. Because we don’t know, we will hold displaying up. No matter how the sooner twenty days of Ramadan has gone, we nonetheless have the blessed ultimate ten days to stay up for. We get to pour our deepest fears and hopes to Allah in heartfelt prayer and supplication. After a day of service to others, at night time, we will are inclined to our hearts by connecting to Allah .

When A’isha raḍyAllāhu 'anha (may Allāh be pleased with her) requested the Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) “O Messenger of Allah, if it is Laylatul Qadr, then what should I supplicate with?” he replied with the well-known dua’: “Allahumma, innaka Afuwwun Karimun, tuḥibbu al-afwa fa‘afu anna” – “O Allah, indeed You are Pardoning and Generous; You love to pardon, so pardon us.”

In actuality, fellow fasting moms and caregivers, we’re not lacking out. If we take a look at our day by day lives of servitude by means of the lens of the akhirah, as described by Dr Tamara Gray, we are literally gaining a lot. We are planting seeds of affection for Allah , His Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) and fasting in our kids. We are giving the aged consolation and companionship of their final chapter on this dunya. May their acts of worship, and our contribution to that, weigh closely on our scales on the Day of Judgement. May we catch the blessing of Laylatul Qadr in these final ten days.


Related studying:

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Podcast: Muslim Women’s Spirituality In Ramadan


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