8 Muslim Women Talk About the Joys and Challenges of Ramadhan • The Muslim Women TImes


The Joys and Challenges of Ramadhan

From on the lookout for the most effective place to wish evening prayers to waking as much as the scent of recent meals for Suhur, one factor has remained fixed for Muslim girls the world over – the necessity to enhance ourselves and develop spiritually. As we get deeper into the spirit of Ramadan, Our characteristic editor, Fadilah Ali interviewed a number of Muslim girls on their experiences, challenges and practices within the holy month and right here’s what every of them needed to say:

Maryam, Nigeria

As a working mom of 4, I’ve little time on my palms. So I find yourself being constant in doing the little acts of worship I’m capable of do. Last 12 months was nice due to the lockdown. It was my greatest in eleven years as a result of my husband who solely comes house throughout weekends was out there all through the lockdown. The tranquility that comes with tahajjud brings me essentially the most pleasure. I used to go to a mosque earlier than I had youngsters however after that, it turned troublesome as a result of taking the youngsters with me wasn’t a good suggestion. I get actually drained after iftar so most occasions, I get up later at evening for the prayer.

I’ve learnt to make eid preparations for myself. I prepare dinner only a dish for my household and outsource snacks for my friends. Then I bake cupcakes for the kids in my husband’s household as we maintain a reunion throughout eid.

Maymunah, United Kingdom

The points of Ramadan that give me essentially the most pleasure is the household time. Especially final 12 months in lockdown it felt much more joyful, having fun with ibaadah and the time we spent collectively. The challenges in Ramadan are (apart from sleep) are the struggles in school and college. With all of the deadlines, exams and PE again within the day, academics have been most of the time unsympathetic so it was an actual wrestle maintaining on the similar tempo, and doing all of your ibaadah and fasting.

I’ve by no means really skilled a lot of mosques throughout Ramadan. Where I stay, there aren’t any huge mosques that cater nicely for girls, aside from one. I went to 1 iftar and it was good to be round different folks. Our eid prep begins very early! Usually we’ll ensure the massive factor (garments/presents) are performed nicely earlier than Ramadan. The very first prep we do is the current wrapping, and that’s mine and my mum’s job perhaps after the fifteenth quick onwards. We barricade ourselves into my room and wrap the presents which is loads of enjoyable. We prefer to spend as a lot of eid as attainable really with our household, so the larger cleansing jobs we do perhaps three days earlier than eid. We additionally do loads of meals prep then as nicely, iron the outfits and ensure every little thing is sorted. A day or two earlier than eid we embellish the lounge, and the evening earlier than, we all the time put henna on our palms.

Mandi, United States

I delve into my work somewhat extra; I work as a nursing practitioner for a low-income clinic and I assist people who find themselves experiencing homelessness, low revenue folks and others who’ve been marginalized. I attempt to work on my endurance and empathy, and those that are experiencing thirst and starvation in a literal manner in addition to those that are ‘hungry’ of their eager for acceptance, their struggles with dependancy, and psychological well being. I attempt to use this to re-live Islamic tales and histories with my youngsters. We actually attempt to restrict our display time by choosing up extra books by Muslim authors. I normally attempt to be taught a brand new Surah throughout Ramadan and work on incorporating the healthiest meals we are able to.

This Ramadan, I will likely be mourning these family and friends misplaced to COVID and for different causes, these we are able to’t share meals with. I’ll attempt to keep in mind that religion lives in our hearts and your own home can be a spot to worship in, and perhaps a part of this pandemic is to keep in mind that bringing your reflections house and prayer at house has its blessings, too, and that Taraweeh doesn’t should occur in a mosque.

The isolation for me is fairly onerous. I’m already removed from loads of our household and never with the ability to share iftar is absolutely miserable. I stay with ADHD and despair and the isolation may be type of destabilizing. So I strive actually onerous to have interaction in dhikr, and I reschedule once I take my medicines to verify I nonetheless have that help. I attempt to take time to train, even just a bit, as a result of that has such a profit. I are likely to stretch myself very skinny and this 12 months I’m hoping to remain inside my limits and keep in mind that there’s blessing and charity in caring for your self as nicely.

Eid celebrations previously have been – going to prayer with household after which we begin at my sister-in-law’s home. My husband and I normally set up a craft undertaking for the youngsters like portray or assembling one thing, and infrequently we take the youngsters to the films. If there’s a native competition on the masjid or theme park, we all the time attempt to take the youngsters.

Mariam, United States

Ramadan is a time the place I get to replicate and attempt to bear in mind what’s necessary in deen and dunya and have them synced. Last 12 months was very completely different as a result of within the US no person knew what was going to occur. Well we didn’t get to do a lot final 12 months for eid, however normally we get up early to complete the cooking, prepare, pray Eid namaz on the masjid and have some donuts then go house and have an open home. Everyone comes over and eats. By 4pm, everybody’s gone. My dad and mom and generally me will go over someone’s home that has invited us over however I’m normally actually sleepy by then so I would simply take a nap.

Last 12 months we couldn’t as a result of the mosques have been shut down, clearly, and this 12 months, it’s solely partially open to males. So I prayed and can seemingly pray taraweeh at house. Before COVID I’d attempt to go each couple days and both keep for 8 or the entire manner via (20 rakats and witr). One of my mates who memorized the entire Quran really used to steer my mother, sister and her mother and sisters at house however then she obtained married and moved. I miss these days.

Sumaya, United Kingdom

Ramadan has a vibe within the air. It’s not solely describable however there’s an environment of serenity and luxury. It’s the issues like watching the taraweeh in Makkah whereas I make Iftar, staying up longer within the evening, making little lantern jars, the ambiance of catching up with family and friends, then the anticipation of the final 10 days, when each evening you anticipate laylatul-qadr, then the ultimate prepping for eid.

For me, I labored the previous Ramadan and I’ll accomplish that this Ramadan. The greatest factor I miss is taraweeh however most mosques aren’t holding it. Usually I make a fast iftar to go, my food plan goes down each Ramadan and I get coronary heart burns from the growing fried meals that I order. When I used to spend Ramadan at house, we used to prepare dinner as a household. It’s lonelier now, however I’m going to brighten my place so I don’t really feel too unhealthy about it. I’ll have iftar at work, I made mates with a cleansing girl that swings by the workplace so we plan to interrupt quick collectively in sha Allah.

For me eid preparations begin round mid-Ramadan, that’s selecting who I’ll spend Eid with and the way many individuals will present up. Then over the consecutive days, I normally do on-line looking for my siblings. Then within the final two days of Ramadan, after all we’ve got to do growing Ibaadah, however in my family we begin baking eid biscuits. The final eve of Ramadan, nevertheless, is spent in contemplation as a result of we don’t know if we’ll witness one other Ramadan so it’s like making an attempt to savour the previous couple of hours earlier than sunset by making duas and supplicating. The youngsters get cash in an envelope known as idayah. As for me, I would like to present zakat earlier than salah.

Rahima, Nigeria

Ramadan is a interval I all the time stay up for; the enjoyment, pleasure, serenity that comes with this superb month is wonderful. I attempt to maximize my act of worship, improve my tahajjud, salatu-duha, recite the Quran extra, and many others. My primary problem is with consuming sahur, however I all the time attempt to earn the reward by consuming water or pap.

Fausat, Nigeria

Suhur time is sort of a problem so I put together the subsequent day’s sahur after iftar. For Eid, if we aren’t spending Eid with in-laws, I attempt to restrict cooking to what I can deal with, since Eid celebration is 3 days. I attempt to make straightforward and scrumptious recipes to organize. That manner I may also take pleasure in eid.

Hafeeza, Nigeria

When I used to be youthful, I cried as a result of I felt I couldn’t do as a lot Ibaadah as I needed, however now I perceive that even the cooking is a good act of Ibaadah. The blessings that comes with the month is what offers me essentially the most pleasure. For eid, it’s the looking for garments and diverse meals.

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Fadilah Ali is the Features Editor for The Muslim Women Times. She has a B.Sc in Microbiology and he or she is keen about studying, writing, girls’s rights, and tafsir.


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